So the first question is, does ‘no-contact’ approach always work? Well, this one is actually really simple to answer. No, it doesn’t always work. Nothing is 100% effective. Some breakups, no matter how hard you may try or how well you may employ my techniques, are irreversible. But that being said ‘no-contact’ approach is almost always the best way to maximize your chances.
Using some form of ‘no-contact’ is typically a key part of any effective overall strategy to get a second chance with your ex. In fact, it’s critical in at least 95% of all breakup situations, according to my experience. So, if you’re in any doubt about whether you should use ‘no-contact’, do it.
‘No-contact’ is almost never going to hurt your chances or make things worse. It’s almost always going to help your cause. I’ll also explain in the blog post about some situations where you may not want to use no-contact. But please remember that most of the time, you should be shutting down communication with your ex as soon as possible after your breakup.
Now I can’t guarantee ‘no-contact’ is going to work. But I can assure you that it’s almost certainly going to give you the best possible chance of getting your ex back. There’s really no strategy that comes even close to ‘no-contact’ in terms of being reliably effective.
How and why is ‘No-Contact’ approach so effective?
Now let’s move on to the second question. How and why does ‘no-contact’ actually work so well? There are a lot of reasons, but I’m going to focus on five of the most important ones.
1. ‘No-Contact’ gives you time to get a handle on your own emotions.
Ignoring your ex for a while after the breakup gives you time to get a handle on your own emotions. It ensures that you don’t say something to your ex that will further hurt your chances of getting them back.
2. Make your ex realize the full consequences of the breakup.
A lot of people underestimate the psychological impact this can have on them. It ensures that your ex experiences the full consequences of the breakup. It ensures that they have to suddenly learn to live without you. There’s no time for your ex to slowly adapt to the new reality. So instead of being there at any time, that they want to talk to you or see you. You’re gone!! and they’re forced to feel how empty life can be when you’re suddenly not around it anymore. When something unexpectedly disappears, it’s challenging to adjust, and if you implement ‘no-contact’ soon after the breakup, your ex will have to endure this kind of shock treatment.
3. Exerts pressure on your ex to commit to a permanent breakup.
This reason is on the lines of the previous one. Ignoring your ex ensures that they feel as much pressure as possible to commit to a permanent breakup. So instead of having you around as a backup plan or a shoulder to cry on, you just vanished from their lives. That kind of sudden shock puts a lot of pressure on your ex to decide whether they really want to face life without you.
It ensures that they understand that breaking up means losing you completely and permanently. This kind of pressure is not cruel or harsh. Although it may feel that way, but when you employ ‘no-contact’ after being dumped, you’re actually just giving your ex what they wanted when they decided to break up. In a lot of cases, this sudden pressure to live without you can be enough on its own to force your ex to change their mind about breaking up, and even if that doesn’t happen, it still ensures that your ex feels like they don’t have much time to reverse their decision. That kind of pressure and urgency helps to elicit feelings of doubt and regret in their minds, improving your chances of eventually getting them to come back to you.
4. No-contact gives you time to focus on yourself and your own life.
Don’t mistakenly believe that ignoring your ex is the only thing you should do during a ‘no-contact’ period. You should be using the time apart from your ex to focus on yourself, rebuilding a busy social life, and getting ahead at work, in school, in your hot hobbies, etc. Be sure to use it as an opportunity to see friends and family, meet new people, pick up new hobbies, or take on new projects.
Living an interesting productive life while you’re not talking to your ex will not only make you more attractive, but you’ll also create plenty of things to talk about when you do re-establish contact.
5. ‘No-contact’ can make your ex miss you.
Yes, that’s true. Having a period of no-contact makes your ex miss you. In fact, nothing you can do or say is going to make your ex miss you more than a period of ‘no-contact’.
The only way to make someone miss you is to disappear from their life, completely. ‘No-contact’ does exactly that and as you’ll know from reading the blog further, why making your ex miss you is critical if you want them to take you back.
So ‘no-contact’ will ensure that your ex feels the full impact of losing you, and in turn, that will greatly increase your overall chance of getting them back. While ‘no-contact’ approach isn’t 100% effective, you can now see why it is almost always the best method to win back your ex. It offers several benefits, and it can sometimes be enough on its own to make your ex realize they’ve made a mistake and beg you to take them back.
